Out with friends, you’re having a great night–partying, dancing, socializing. Then in the bathroom, your brand new iPhone just happens to fall into the toilet. There goes your perfectly good night. The expression all’s well that ends well holds true. Consequently, all is not well that does not end well.
A bad ending to a movie ruins the entire movie (a bad ending to a book is worse). The Break Up, for example, was a horrible movie! (SPOILER ALERT!) It was a great romantic comedy until the end when the couple didn’t get back together. Seriously, what was the point of the movie? To watch 2 people fall apart? Lame.
In Titanic (the greatest movie EVER), Jack dies , but at the end, Rose dies and they live happily ever after in heaven. Okay, let’s take Romeo and Juliet, shall we. The ending isn’t necessarily happy, but it is satisfying. They kill themselves out of love and passion for one another (how cute ). We can assume they are both living happily ever after in heaven too.
In real life, unhappy endings can be very distressing. Everyone goes through ups and downs, we all have our disagreements, and we all have bad days. In order for us to turn things around, we need to focus on being positive and appreciating the joyful moments. Happy endings are a result of your own actions and your own thoughts. If something goes wrong and you have no control over it, change your way of thinking. Focus on the positive aspect of the situation. And if there is none–find it. Make a happy ending for yourself, always.
“Happiness does not depend on what you have or who you are, it solely relies on what you think.” -Buddha
Watching Desperate Housewives the other night put things in perspective. (SPOILER ALERT!–again). Susan’s husband died. It was devastating okay. I cried (I know I’m not the only one!). Anyways, right before Mike was shot, he and Susan were having a great moment full of love and they were resolving a small disagreement they had earlier. If he would have died before they had this moment, the ending would not be tolerable. Something like that–even if it’s just in a TV show–reminds us to appreciate people because the future is unknown. The end matters because the last feeling you have is often the most profound.
It’s a given that things are not always going to end well. However, that should not stop us from trying to make each day have a happy, or at least acceptable, ending. I think it’s important to make sure that we always resolve conflicts with people we care about–even with those that we don’t particularly care for. Often we get caught up in the petty things and forget about the only things that matter–family, friends, and love. If you have a disagreement, fight it out, vent (I know I do!), then resolve it and move on. Holding grudges is overrated.
“You only live once, that’s the motto.. YOLO” – Drake, The Motto
If there’s one thing I do well, it’s seize the moment. I ALWAYS do what I want, because I don’t enjoy the feeling of wishing I did something that I didn’t do. It’s rare that I do something I regret–and even then, I have to be glad I did it, otherwise I’d be saying what if–that’s worse. When I’m having a bad day, I bring myself back to those moments that I’ve seized, and I smile.
To live each day as if it were your last is not realistic. If I did that, I’d be on a vacation every day of my life. Instead, we should make each day (or at least most days) have a happy ending. Make each day count.
“I figure life’s a gift and I don’t intend on wasting it. You don’t know what hand you’re gonna get dealt next. You learn to take life as it comes at you. To make each day count.” – Jack Dawson, Titanic.